Questions for Discussion with Your Partner

What do I want from this birth?

What do I need from you during this pregnancy?

What will I need from you if this birth is complicated? If a cesarean is necessary?

What feelings do I have right now about this pregnancy?

What are we like sexually during this pregnancy?

What are my fantasies about this birth? Yours?

What would I settle for?

How do I feel about all the preparation that is necessary for this birth?

How do I want to be during labor?

How do I want us to be during labor?

What if labor takes a long time?

What are my greatest fears about this pregnancy and birth? Yours?

What are my greatest joys about this birth? Yours

Ten things that relax me and would help during labor:

Ten things that you can do for me in labor:

Ten places that are OK to touch during labor/delivery:

What do I want for this baby? You?

How can we be the best team, the strongest unit we can possibly be during the first few months?

If this is not your first birth:

What are my strongest feelings about our last birth?

What do you remember most from the first few weeks of the last birth?

How do I imagine that this time will be different?

How do I want this time will be different?